The Obstacles to Getting a Man

There is no need to make dating full of twists and turns. But, as hard as they try, some women will still have trouble keeping and finding a man. There will be more than a few reasons why this is so. For one, some girls just do not know what to do. Also, it can be easy to fall for some of the everyday obstacles to dating.

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Found below are a few of the most typical obstacles to finding a man.

1. Being a Pessimistic Sally. It is only normal for a person to want to whine about things. We whine about the poor economy, our horrible bosses, how awfully we are treated, etc. It will not help you in any way, but many people use as a stress relief technique. It makes us feel worse than we already do. You are going to turn off your date if you keep complaining. In its place, try to keep yourself from complaining. When you are still mastering how to find a boyfriend, try to view things in a 'glass half full' way.

2. Being Overly Demanding on Yourself. We have a lot of critics, but the one inside is the worst one. When you are still learning how to get a boyfriend, you should stop being extremely critical of yourself. You will need to take a look at the constructive as an alternative to the negative. Listen to him and pay attention to whatever it is that he is sharing.

3. The Needy Trap. If you act extremely needy and too clingy, no one is going to like you. Value your independence first so that you do not become that girl. Before you look for a guy, have a life first. Have friends and let him have his. Don't ditch them the instant that you and your man want to get serious.

4. Being a Doormat. Ladies, make sure that you keep your own opinion about things. Don't force anything if something does not feel right. Never allow your man to walk all over you. You should never be coddling him either.

5. Forcing Commitment. When you are learning how to get a guy, the first thing you should realize is that you cannot make someone do something they don't like. You shouldn't force commitment on a guy if he does not want it. Instead, you will need to look into making your relationship as healthy as possible. One where you and the guy are both happy and satisfied.

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Fun Flirting Tips For Girls

Do you find it really hard to attract boys towards you? Then you may find this article really helpful. If you don't know how to flirt, you can lose the chance of scoring with the guy of your dreams even if he is very much interested in you. Flirting is a game and if you play it well, nothing can stop you from winning.

The first and the most important rule to flirting is, to play hard-to-get. If you come across as 'too easily available', boys will just end up taking you for granted. The simple explanation is that the more you push a guy away, the more he will get attracted to you. However, it is also important to push him in the right direction. If you show him that you're just not interested, it will only spoil things. So the trick is to invite him, but not to seem desperate. Instead make him work his way to you. It will make him want you even more. The next rule is, don't directly flirt. Instead of talking directly, use body language to communicate. Give him a warm and inviting smile. Touch him on his arm occasionally. Playfully hit him lightly on his arm when he teases you. And blush! Studies reveal that boys tend to find girls who blush extremely irresistible. Also listen to him when he is talking to you. Boys hate girls who just cannot listen and go on talking non-stop. So when you talk to him, keep it minimal. Don't interrupt while he is talking to you. Maintain eye contact while talking to him, but don't stare. See that you also dress up well and take an effort to look your best. Dressing up well will make you look so much prettier than you already are. And it goes without saying that boys like pretty girls.

The main reason why girls find it so hard to flirt right with boys is because they try too hard. The more hard you try, the tougher it will get. The other staunch enemy is nervousness. Sometimes you may find yourself nervous, however you must learn to play it cool. Good acting skills will be a bonus here. Don't let him know that you are even close to nervous. So be confident and you will never go wrong. All the best to you. May you find a prince!

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The author writes on relationship advice. He also writes missing you messages and love messages which you can share with your special someone.