How to Make Someone Fall in Love With You (Really!)

Have you been hoping a certain someone will notice you or fall in love with you? Perhaps you've broken up with the person you feel was the love of your life, and you are hoping you can get back together with your ex, 'making' them see what they are missing and come back to you.

It can definitely hurt to be alone, whether we are pining for new or lost love. But herein lies a trick, as when we are pining we are NOT going to attract true, lasting love. We may attract rebound relationships based on mutual neediness or other dysfunction, but deeply satisfying, healthy love relationships can only be created between two happy, well-adjusted people. While we all play certain roles, often unconsciously, within relationships - and in fact we tend to attract people who will help us fulfill those roles - we must make sure we approach the desire for a significant other from a healthy perspective.

A Little Background on YOU

You are an amazing, dynamic creature worthy of the best life has to offer, and to the degree that you believe that, people will fall for the 'real' you. Therefore, you will attract the 'right' partner for you when you are no longer pining or miserable or desperate. Looking to an ex for comfort or wishing they want you when they clearly do not is self-destructive. You deserve better, and deep inside you know that; you deserve someone who thinks you are wonderful and special and the best thing that ever happened to them, just as you are hoping that special person will be those things for you.

The inner feelings come before - and create - the outer ability to attract the 'right' person. We do not need another person to 'complete' us; rather we need to feel complete and happy in order to attract another who is on the same healthy wavelength, who will share and enjoy life's many experiences with us. When we attract from this level, having done the personal development and growth necessary to not 'need' anyone, we attract another happy, healthy individual with whom we can connect on a soul level, and with whom we can grow further and enjoy the process in all its magic.

Some great advice when it comes to making someone fall in love with you is to work on becoming a person that YOU fall in love with. Stop dating for a while and give yourself a break. Learn about yourself, love yourself enough to invest the time and patience to make YOU happy. Do whatever it takes to become whole and balanced and excited about your life as an individual, whether you use therapy, various classes you may be interested in, reading, exercise, meditation, etc., and only then consider attracting a mate. At that point, when you feel wonderful and attractive and happy, you ARE the person to whom your 'perfect' mate will be attracted, and not until. Make a detailed list, then, of what you want in a partner, from looks to job to personality to core beliefs, and watch as the attraction begins, and you have learned how to 'make' someone fall in love with you!

About the Author

Shauna writes about a variety of topics for her online publishing business, ranging from car roof racks to dog life jackets to patio dining sets.

Love And Our Expectations

 

During life, we all seek to know someone well enough to feel love and be loved; we seek to connect and be a part of another person's life.  When we look for love, sometimes we are looking for a lot more than love itself.  We are not just looking for someone to be with, but we are also looking to fulfill everything we need in life.  We want understanding, someone by our side; we want companionship, sentiment, and all the desired characteristics we find attractive and need in another person.  Love has a big list to fill, or so we think so.

Finding love can be a lot easier when we let go of all that we think we need because love can be enough all by itself.  It is when we get distracted by our other needs that we forget or even overlook the love that is or can be there, for finding love isn't about finding the criteria we think we need in another person.  Love is more than our list of what we want.  Love, true love, can be in a very different from what we would ordinarily find attractive or essential to our needs.  Imagine if you were more open and aware of what your true needs were and instead looked from this place?  Imagine if you let go of all you think you need in order to fall in love with someone?  By letting go of your agenda of what love is and needs to be, you can feel love for the sake of love.   If you let go of how it must be, you can feel it from a more pure place.                

We may not even see the love that is available to us because of our biased idea of how it must be for us.  True love, the person that really fits us, does not always come in the package we deem essential.  If you let go of your idea of the perfect match, the perfect love, and allowed yourself just to feel and be open, who would you see?  What person in your life have you overlooked simply because they didn't fit in with your idea of the perfect mate?  What relationship are you stuck in because you believe this is what love should be, even if you don't feel it?  Love can come from the most unexpected places.  Do not keep yourself stuck in a loveless relationship because you think it is ideal and fits with your expectations.  Do not ignore the possibilities based on your assumptions of what this other person may or may not be.  Open yourself up to everything around you and lose your criteria for love.  Love encompasses more than you think, and it can overshadow all you have ever known so far.  Let yourself find love by escaping from what you think love is.  Open up to love with no ideas of how it has to be.  When you do this, finding love is a lot easier, for you give yourself a chance to find the love you are meant to be with.

About the Author

Open up to the peace you will find when you finally see yourself, your true self, and learn how to truly be in the moment at Answers in Writing.

Adam Benedetto and Zoe Young are both dedicated to enabling others to reach their full potential in life, to help others release what is holding them back, and to find their true selves. Through years of experience and development, both have sought out the answers we all need to find peace, understand ourselves, and reach enlightenment.