Love And Our Expectations

 

During life, we all seek to know someone well enough to feel love and be loved; we seek to connect and be a part of another person's life.  When we look for love, sometimes we are looking for a lot more than love itself.  We are not just looking for someone to be with, but we are also looking to fulfill everything we need in life.  We want understanding, someone by our side; we want companionship, sentiment, and all the desired characteristics we find attractive and need in another person.  Love has a big list to fill, or so we think so.

Finding love can be a lot easier when we let go of all that we think we need because love can be enough all by itself.  It is when we get distracted by our other needs that we forget or even overlook the love that is or can be there, for finding love isn't about finding the criteria we think we need in another person.  Love is more than our list of what we want.  Love, true love, can be in a very different from what we would ordinarily find attractive or essential to our needs.  Imagine if you were more open and aware of what your true needs were and instead looked from this place?  Imagine if you let go of all you think you need in order to fall in love with someone?  By letting go of your agenda of what love is and needs to be, you can feel love for the sake of love.   If you let go of how it must be, you can feel it from a more pure place.                

We may not even see the love that is available to us because of our biased idea of how it must be for us.  True love, the person that really fits us, does not always come in the package we deem essential.  If you let go of your idea of the perfect match, the perfect love, and allowed yourself just to feel and be open, who would you see?  What person in your life have you overlooked simply because they didn't fit in with your idea of the perfect mate?  What relationship are you stuck in because you believe this is what love should be, even if you don't feel it?  Love can come from the most unexpected places.  Do not keep yourself stuck in a loveless relationship because you think it is ideal and fits with your expectations.  Do not ignore the possibilities based on your assumptions of what this other person may or may not be.  Open yourself up to everything around you and lose your criteria for love.  Love encompasses more than you think, and it can overshadow all you have ever known so far.  Let yourself find love by escaping from what you think love is.  Open up to love with no ideas of how it has to be.  When you do this, finding love is a lot easier, for you give yourself a chance to find the love you are meant to be with.

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Having Fun Finding True Love

When I was a little girl, I always imagined my life ending up a certain way. I wanted the perfect life, with the perfect house, and the perfect husband and family. Life has a way of upending the plans you make and showing you that even the best of plans will not always bear the fruit you want.

I almost did get married to a guy who really was not perfect. I thought we were the perfect couple when we first got together. In the world of dating, professional people usually gravitate towards each other, and in our case, this was true. He was a successful businessman, and I was a successful business owner. This meant that we connected on many different levels.

It was about six months into the dating relationship that his true colors started coming out. He came home from a particularly stressful day, and sat down for dinner. I got him a glass of wine and his dinner, and out of the blue he totally flipped out on me. He threw the glass of wine at the wall, and stormed out of the house in a rage. I was totally unprepared for this violence. I thought because he was working in a high-pressure environment that he would be able to handle the stress. I was totally wrong. The next day I had his stuff collected on the porch with a note telling him that things would not work out.

If you fast forward to today, I have been out several times dating professional people from all walks of life. Even though I have not met the man I am meant to be with, there have been many good times over the last eight months that have kept me coming back to online dating. This is really why I am writing. If you want to have a good time, meet new people in a safe reliable way, this is the way to do it. Fill out a singles profile and see what type of people you get matched up with. You might not find true love right away, but I can guarantee you will have fun.

About the Author

Lizzy B is an experienced writer on relationships and the dating industry. She has been writing for quite a while and has had countless articles published. Some of Lizzy's most favorite topics to write on include single professionals over 30, mature professional singles, relationships, and matchmaking services. Lizzy's articles are well written and memorable. They are especially great for anyone looking to start dating and still keep up with their daily activities.