4 Traits of High Maintenance Women

High maintenance women are those who need many things (money, material goods, affection) to be happy. They possess an almost obsessive attention to detail that extends beyond their person, to their homes, their pets, and yes, even their men. So, how can you distinguish whether or not the girl you thought was the best catch ever is really a prima donna behind closed doors? Read on to learn the 4 essential traits these demanding gals possess.

1. They always look like a million bucksHigh maintenance women are obsessed with all aspects of their personal appearance and put great effort into looking great at all times; however, the worst pitfall to dating these women is dealing with their vanity. Sure, their fascination with their own looks means that whenever they step out of the house, they look perfect. But guess what? They know they look perfect and for every hour of showing off, they'll spend another 8 hours on upkeep and repair behind the scenes, e.g., very expensive decorated fingernails, makeup, hair weaves and extensions.

2. They are incredibly materialistic
High maintenance women demand the best of all these things. They expect nothing less than 4 star accommodations and food venues, shopping at designer stores and exotic vacations. These gold diggers will only settle with a man that can offer them status and recognition and they are eager for gifts that are caked with money instead of sentimental value. They tend to focus more on the luxuries of the BMW you're driving rather than the trip you're embarking on and will take notice of the thread count of your sheets rather than your body lying on top of them.


3. They require constant attention and reassurance
High maintenance women are overly dramatic and can be emotionally draining to their partners because of the unreasonable amounts of romance, non-stop attention and reassurance they require. If you're not able to keep up the level of attention and compliments they demand and someone else better comes along, they will jump ship.


4. They have Princess Syndrome
High maintenance women walk around feeling entitled to the good life without feeling any need to lift a finger to achieve it. Most high maintenance women have the belief that the world revolves around them and are quick to reject those they feel are beneath them or whom they perceive as having low status. In relationships, they believe that they are too delicate to perform certain tasks and will often flat out refuse to carry their share of the load.

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10 Signs You're Too Nice

From the time we were infants, our parents told us to "be nice." For the most part, it's good advice; however, in a relationship, some men become too considerate, too helpful and too kind in an effort to seemingly align their lives with a woman's wishes. Don't be one of them. Women appreciate a gentleman, but they don't respect pushovers and they don't feel attraction for "nice" guys who always kiss up to them. Here are 10 signs that you're too nice.

1. You give too many complimentsWomen love compliments, but if you make too many or too big a compliment, most women won't believe you and will wonder what you are trying to sell them.

2. You're too understanding
Constantly trying to understand a woman's point of view as she walks all over you isn't being tolerant; it's being spineless and allowing yourself to be a doormat. Yes, being unfailingly understanding and considerate towards a woman may keep you in a relationship (for a short time) and prevent arguments and clashes with her, but it won't gain her respect and admiration.


3. You're always available
Always being available makes women think that you don't have a life of your own and actually lessens your own attractiveness, making you far less desirable.


4. You're always buying her gifts
Even though the thought is nice, the concept of constantly showering a woman with gifts will begin to lose its meaning and eventually she will become less thrilled and even annoyed receiving them.


5. You agree with everything she says
Guys that are too nice agree with everything a woman says, thinking that's what she wants. In reality, women want someone who is going to stimulate their minds and challenge them.


6. You let her choose everything
Not all of us like to make decisions, and deferring to your woman is OK sometimes; however, letting her call all the shots about EVERYTHING and EVERYWHERE you go is not good. Women are not turned on by men they can completely control and you do your relationship a good bit of damage when you show yourself to be indecisive.

7. You always pay for everything
With the traditional etiquette of a gentleman, guys have always been taught that paying a woman's way is the right thing to do; however, paying for stuff shouldn't always be left to one person. You don't have to split everything down the middle, but there does come a time in a relationship when the financial load should be shared.

8. You're too accommodating
Being helpful is one thing, but if you get in the habit of doing every little thing for her whenever she wants, she'll come to expect having her own butler and chauffer around on a regular basis -- not a boyfriend. If running an errand is convenient for you, help her out by all means. But don't be afraid to put your foot down either.


9. You're too respectfulin the bedroom
While every woman appreciates a gentleman, there are certain arenas in which you can be too respectful, particularly in the bedroom. Yes women deserve respect and they want you to be delicate with them for the most part; however, in the bedroom, women appreciate spontaneity, assertiveness and a sense of adventure and passion.


10. You're too interested in her
Becoming more interested in a woman's life than your own will ultimately make her bored with you. Yes, you want to take an interest in her career, her hobbies, etc...but it's a bad sign if you abandon all of your aspirations, neglect your interests and bail on your friends just so you can concentrate all of your energy on her.

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10 Signs of a Desperate Man

In the dating world, a desperate man is one who is overeager, anxious, presumptuous and willing to be with any woman to avoid being alone. Women can spot desperation in a man from miles away, and if you suffer from it, you'll never stand a chance at getting any girl.

A man who is desperate may have a strong want and desire to have a relationship; however, due to having little experience in the romance and dating department, his behaviors can indicate low-self esteem and a host of other issues that turn women off and can actually be viewed as creepy and disturbing.

Here are 10 warning signs that can help you determine if you fit under the portrait of a desperate man:


1. Dropping your standards
Desperate men are prepared to drop their dating standards to fill the huge emotional void in their life. Whether they want children or intimacy the desperate man will date who they have too to avoid being alone. They will be with any woman just for the sake of being attached while failing to realize that it's better to be single and wait for the girl who is their type.


2. Constantly fishing for compliments
The desperate man has low self-esteem, a poor self-image and needs to constantly hear how great he is and be assured of things. It doesn't take long for women to get tired of constantly stroking your ego.


3. Overly Calling/Emailing/Texting Her
If you want to run a woman off quickly, one of the best ways to do it is to overly call, email or send text messages early in a relationship, especially when she hasn't returned any of your messages. The desperate man makes the fatal mistake of calling the woman he's dating and asking "Did you just call me?" after receiving a call from an unrecognized number.


4. You're always available
Always being available makes women think that you don't have a life of your own and actually lessens your own attractiveness, making you far less desirable. Being a challenge to women makes you more desirable.


5. You move too fast in relationships
The desperate man will spend every single day with a new girl for weeks and never know basic information about her that normally should have been covered in the first few dates. Although finding love is based on each individual relationship and some people move quicker than others, the desperate man will move so quickly with things like intimacy and sex that he will turn a woman off with his frantic desire for a relationship.


6. You're constantly buying her gifts
A desperate man constantly showers a woman with gifts without realizing that eventually she will become less thrilled and even annoyed receiving them. Even though the thought is nice, after a while the concept will begin to lose its meaning and she is going to get tired of always getting something.


7. Not giving her enough time and space
Desperate men tend to be a bit on the invasive side when they always need to hang out at a woman's home for hours on end, not respecting the fact that she has a life of her own life. Women don't always want to hang out with you day in and day out and will quickly end relationships with guys not respecting their need for space.


8. You're in constant agreement with everything she says
Desperate men just sit there and agree with everything a woman says, thinking that's what she wants. In reality, women want someone who is going to stimulate their minds and are not turned on by men they can completely control has no backbone.


9. You make her the center of your life too fast
Desperate men tend to make the first woman that will go out with them the only person in their life and not take the time to continue dating and getting to know other women. Telling a woman "You're the only woman in the world for me" before the three-week period will have her running for the hills.


10. Being overly nice all the time
If a guy is too nice, too accommodating and tries to be the most giving person to a woman, she will begin to think he's being insincere and will lose romantic interest quickly. She'll also think that he's only trying to achieve one thing: to get into her pants.

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4 Signs She's Playing Hard to Get

So you found a girl who really gets your attention. But one thing that you notice is that she seems kind of out of it, like she doesn't really want your attention. Or does she? Let's face it: Attractive women get a lot of attention and are approached all the time by men. They are often far too subtle and indirect -- or just plain confusing -- when revealing their romantic interest; therefore, they need quick, easy ways to figure out if you're either a self-confident guy who can see through their games or just another wuss that easily gives up at the first sign of resistance.

For a woman, playing hard to get is a game that is meant to drive men crazy yet keep them coming back for more. The trouble comes when guys don't know if a woman is playing hard to get or is just genuinely not interested in interacting with them. So with that in mind, here are 4 signs she's playing hard to get.

1. She tests you to see how long you'll chase herYou've gotten her number, but when you dial her digits, all you get is her answering machine. A couple of days pass, you call her again and she happens to answer the phone, apologizing for not having called you earlier because she was busy. She always has a full schedule (or pretends that she does). So what's the real reason why didn't she call you when she had the chance? It may be because she wants to be pursued, but doesn't want to look too available.

If you call a woman to set up a date with her, she may tell you that she is busy that particular night, to call her next week when her schedule is not as hectic. Doing this shows she's interested in going out with you, but containing her eagerness. She may even agree to go out with you on a certain night and then at the last minute, calls and cancels to reschedule. Although this is a risky move on her part, she may be checking to see how you will take the bad news and if you are still really interested in going out with her.

2. She flirts like crazy, then stops
A woman who is playing hard to get will seemingly want to know everything about you i.e., quiz you about your family, your background, and your tastes in things like food, music and movies, then abruptly change the subject by moving the conversation elsewhere. More than likely, what she's doing is trying to catalog your interests so that she can slowly bond with you when she's ready.


3. She talks about other guys you don't know
Another sign a woman is playing hard to get is when she brings up co-workers from work or male friends and makes light conversations on how cute or funny they are in order to ignite a little jealously and make you work harder for her attention.


4. She teases you, then pulls away
If she smiles when you check her out, plays with her hair, leans toward you while talking and briefly stares into your eyes with passion to build up tension, then suddenly breaks away when you move in for the kiss or some neck action, she may well be playing hard to get and trying to see how hard you'll really work for her affection.

Playing hard to get is part of the dating game, not to mention the part that makes it fun; however, if she has your number, but is busy all the time and continuously makes no attempt to keep the window of possibility open with you, she's not playing hard to get--she's just not interested in you.

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5 Skills That Impress Women

Women like a man who is confident in his abilities and can take care of himself (and them too if the need arises). They also appreciate an array of skills in men ranging from complex ones that show off masculinity to the emotional ones which indicate a guy's softer side. Although it's virtually impossible to impress every woman with the same one or two skills, here are the top five skills that impress women.


1. Being able to cook
Just about every woman is a little bit pleasantly surprised to discover that a guy can cook, actually wants to cook and seems to genuinely know what he's doing in the kitchen. You don't have to start taking cooking classes, shop for expensive cookware or throw together an artistic dinner to impress a woman. Just start with a few basic recipes and practice them till they turn out right. As long the meals you prepare for her taste good and look and smell appetizing, you're impressing her.


2. Being able to fix a car
Although not all men are crazy about engines or getting grease all over their sleeves and hands, in order to impress a woman, it is usually enough to be able to maintain a car correctly, replace a flat tire and diagnose basic car troubles correctly instead of opening the hood and looking confused.


3. Being able to speak a foreign language
A woman is bound to be impressed by a man who can speak a foreign language, especially when you just let it come up at the right moment. Apart from the fact speaking a foreign language requires certain level of intelligence and is a skill that is more difficult to learn as an adult, it is also a sign of worldliness, which intrigues women.


4. Being a handyman
It's very impressive to a woman when you're willing to get your hands dirty and can be relied upon to maintain a home and perform basic repairs.


5. Being able to converse with them
Women are impressed by men who can express their opinions and feelings in a masculine way. Unfortunately, most men don't realize that a woman's idea of communication means actually listening to what she has to say and understanding her, as well as relate to her problems without judging her or providing unwanted advice. When you learn how to listen to your woman and adequately express yourself, she will feel understood and respected and you will experience fewer communication problems in your relationship.

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The Importance of Making Women Laugh

Is there anything more attractive than a guy who can make women laugh? Using humor can relieve the nervous tension of first date jitters and level the ground between you, negate worries about "not being or looking good enough" and draw a man and a woman closer together. Even though some women fall for a guy's impressive job, savings account or his sexy body, the ability to make them laugh is a renowned dating and flirting strategy that works every time--if you know how to use it right.

Whether you realize it or not, humor is critical to your success with women. In fact, a sense of humor usually tops a woman's attraction wish list and is one of the best ways to turn her on. A woman who finds herself laughing along with your great sense of humor is a girl who is more likely to fall for your charms. Another key component of laughter is that when you're funny around women, it presents you as the kind of guy who's fun to be with, and if a woman is really interested romantically, she'll laugh at your jokes--even if they aren't funny!

Although laughter is a very effective dating technique, many guys get it completely wrong when they try to be funny around women. Guys who are desperately trying to seek a woman's approval do things like slap-sticky humor or act like a clown, making it obvious that they're trying to make her laugh and coming across as goofy or dorky. Not good.

In order to get a woman laughing and attracted at the same time, you have to get an idea as to what she may find amusing and tease her; however, this doesn't mean be a jerk. It means using gestures, facial expressions and voice tone to create a fun and flirty vibe and assume familiarity with her by doing things like mocking her voice, telling her funny jokes and stories and using your humor to break the touch barrier while making her laugh at the same time.

The only downside to this strategy is that when you're only teasing and making women laugh, you're not showing them the other parts of your personality. Humor is an effective tool, don't get me wrong, but don't rely on it to create attraction all by itself. When meeting new women, you don't necessarily want to kick off every discussion with a joke. Instead, learn a little bit about the woman first and ask her questions, then once you've got her talking, you will gain access to more of her personality and seem like a more well-rounded and interesting type of guy.

When it comes to creating attraction, humor can be your most effective tool when you're talking to a woman. Not only will showing off your great sense of humor get a girl to laugh--it's bound to ensure that both of you enjoy your time spent together.

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4 Ways to Keep Her Attention

Since the beginning of time, men have sought the attention of women, but very few know the key skills necessary to make a lasting impression on the women they want. In dating, making a woman come to you is the easy part; however, keeping her attention is the real challenge. Here are 4 ways to grab a woman's attention and keep it once you get it.


1. Be mysterious
A mistake most men make is exchanging their entire life story with a woman, especially on the first date. Women like a little mystery; however, this doesn't mean you should be boring and play the silent type. It just means you should be less forthcoming with details about your life. If a woman thinks she has you figured out, she will get bored; however, feed her a bit, but keep her curiosity growing and her interest in you will do the same. Don't lie to her or play mind games, but leave something hidden which will make her come back for more.


2. Make her miss you
Limiting your availability at the onset will also raise your value in her eyes, as it indicates that you have a sense of independence. As a relationship develops, it is essential to have a life of your own, so let her know that you have places to go and people to see. Let her wonder where you are, whom you're with and where you're going, and she will hope to cross paths with you more often than you think. You know the expression about absence making the heart grow fonder? Well, it's true.


3. Be interesting
A man with ideas, dreams and ambitions is exciting to be around. Women never feel attraction for a guy they perceive as desperate, needy or eager to please, but come across as a confident, self-aware guy who has a lot going on in his life and you'll be on the fast track to becoming irresistible to women. What woman could help but pay attention to a man that is engaged in the world, capable of bringing new and enlightening ideas into her world and constantly seeks personal growth and improvement?


4. Improve yourself
Most guys don't take the time to work on themselves, but just as men demand that their women be good-looking, women demand and deserve the same. If you really want to grab a woman's attention — and keep it — then be one of the few men who take the time to develop themselves into the kind of guy worthy of an amazing woman's attention. Make sure you choose the right cologne, develop a good sense of style, stay well-groomed and always look your best.

  

 

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