He Says His Feelings Have Changed! What to Do When Your Man Pulls Away

You've just been hit by what feels like a ton of bricks. The man you love, the only man you can envision your life with has just told you that his he's fallen out of love with you or he doesn't feel as close to you as he once did. It's heartbreaking to be a woman in a position like this. Try as you might, you just can't figure out what went wrong and why his feelings changed so dramatically. All you want to do is rewind time back to when he couldn't get enough of you and told you he'd love you forever. Unfortunately, you have to face what is going on in your relationship and you need to make a decision. Do you accept that he's pulling away or do you do everything within your power to get him back in love with you? The answer seems clear, doesn't it? Why let him go if this is the one and only man for you?

If he says his feelings have changed take his word for it. Do not try and convince him that what he feels isn't real or he's just going through a bad patch and taking it out on you. A man typically won't confess to falling out of love unless it's something that he genuinely feels. You have to recognize that it's happened and that the relationship as you knew it is now over. Unless you can do that, you won't be able to take the necessary steps to make him want to be close to you again. Right now it all needs to be about you honouring what he's feeling and respecting what he tells you. Hiding your head in the sand will not fix this.

Attempt to talk to him about what he's feeling. This isn't as simple as asking him what changed as he may not be able to answer that in an honest and sincere way. Emotions, particularly those of the romantic sort, are often so confusing that we have trouble identifying them or pinpointing them. He may tell you that he doesn't know what changed or when it changed. Respect that he's telling you the truth and isn't trying to rub salt in your emotional wounds. If he is able to tell you when he does feel that things shifted, that that knowledge and use it as you move forward. Learn from whatever your boyfriend shares with you.

Rebuilding a relationship isn't easy but it's certainly far from impossible. There are a few methods that are worth trying first because doing them will only prove beneficial to you and to him. The first is to just take a breather from all the drama and make a decision to not talk with him for a couple of weeks. This is going to feel incredibly hard and trust me, it is, but it's worth putting in the effort to do it. The time apart will be a purging for you both. You'll have time to consider what you're really feeling and he will as well. Often, just the absence of one another is enough of a catalyst to bring you back together.

It's important that you try and look within when you want to make your man fall back in love with you. No one is perfect and we all could use some self improvements. Look inside of yourself and think about what you'd like to change and then focus your energy on that. Your goal is to show your man that you can make strides to be a better woman and potential partner to him. That alone will help him see just what a treasure you are.

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