You can never compel your guy to commit. You can't make any person do what they don't want. You should not be thinking of trapping him into commitment either because that will just make you discontented. Instead, you need to work on making the relationship as good as it can be. That way he will make the decision to stay with you and he will want commitment.
09.01.2011 Los Angeles, CA - Philippa Bevan claims she learned the truth about commitment the painful way. "I was so obsessed over the detail that my man just did not want to commit to me. I wanted him to want to be with me as much as I wanted to be with him. It consumed me entirely and even if I didn't want it to, it occupied the relationship too. In the end, we weren't content at all. Now I know that commitment can't be mandatory, it just comes organically." Bevan recommends the site - http://www.meetyoursweet.com/attractmen/.
You should never make anyone into doing anything they don't wish to do. Don't pay attention when people tell you things like 'Get yourself pregnant, he'll commit to you then' or "Give him an ultimatum and hold off on sex till he is ready to commit." Commitment must be a choice made freely, that is one of the points driven home by the Get a Guy Guide book. He should go for it because he wants to be with you and for no other reason. Furthermore, trapping a guy can never assure happiness.
There are lots of things you can do to make a guy WANT commitment. First of all, there is no need to concentrate on commitment by itself. Instead, concentrate on your relationship; make it a happier one and commitment will just follow. Make sure you are happy and make certain he is happy. You should be cautious about making it just about him and about making too many concessions. The only thing this is going to do for you are to make you miserable. And no good man is going to commit to someone unhappy. You have to find a balance where you can let the relationship flourish.
Don't be scared to express that you love him. Show it in everything you do and let him know too. Find the self confidence to tell him how you feel. If he makes you content, show him. This will make him feel like a man and boost his ego. Show him how much you care and do not take him for granted. But, never be too clingy or even mother him. You have to give him breathing space. Love him enough, but remember yourself. Even when you are thinking about how to make him happy, think of your happiness too.
Talk about the relationship. But, you must never talk about commitment out of fear or insecurity. You can discuss it when you are calm. Again, you must never impose commitment, if you do then you can harm the relationship permanently, you may never get a 2nd Chance. Also, you should not be settling for a terrible or even a mediocre relationship. Also, don't squander more of your time if it does not feel right or if he says he won't ever commit.
Resources:
For more information of Get a Guy Guide book you can visit the links below:
http://www.meetyoursweet.com/2ndchance
http://www.meetyoursweet.com/attractmen/
http://www.meetyoursweet.com/selfconfidence
Jones Spores is a multi-awarded writer of various articles and different press releases. he has uplifted honesty in his work, may it be a product to sell or a service to be rendered. He reveals the truth in every product so people may know of it.
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