Monday, August 1, 2011

Matchmaker tips – how not to approach women

One of the many things that a matchmaker may tell men who are looking for love and romance is that approaching women is not as simple as it seems. A number of men feel nervous when meeting a woman that they find attractive, whether they meet her through their matchmaker service or at their local bar. While women sometimes don't make it easy for men to approach them, a few things should be avoided if you don't want to put her off within the first 30 seconds of meeting her. These include the following:

  • Bad pick-up lines

Pick-up lines are always a hazard. Unless you are very confident and have the ability to pull off a pick-up line successfully, it is best to avoid cheesy or forced intros and instead simply be yourself. Women are used to men trying all sorts of lines to get their attention, and it can be both annoying and tiring to hear the same old lines being used all the time. Instead, try something honest and simple – smile and say hello, compliment her on her earrings or introduce yourself and gauge her reaction.

  • Bad jokes

It is true that women like men with a sense of humour, but if your jokes consist of school boy puns and dirty jokes with dubious punch-lines, it is best to avoid them. As a general rule of thumb, if she does not respond well to your first joke, she is not likely to respond any better to the next ten. Many men tell jokes out of nervousness, and as a way to ‘bowl' her over and win her attention. Matchmaker experts suggest that you stick to a funny encounter that happened at work or something funny you saw on your way home that day if you have to use humour.

  • Personal space

Even more off-putting than bad pick-up lines and corny jokes is a man who does not respect a woman's personal space. Even if you are with your matchmaker love interest on a date, do not assume that you know her well enough to touch her in an inappropriate way, kiss her neck or sit so close to her that she is not able to move. If anything, this will make her not want to spend time with you rather than the opposite, and it could also make her feel extremely uncomfortable with someone she doesn't know.

  • Overt bragging

We all know that men can't resist a story about how many weights they lifted at gym, or how they dominated on the soccer pitch. What women do not like to hear is over the top bragging about money, cars and how much skill you have in the bedroom. Just like men are put off by women who talk about themselves a lot, women are put off by men who try to impress them with talk of how much money they earn or the flashy car that they drive. This can be a deal breaker even if you brag on your matchmaker profile.

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Bianca Jones offers advice for singles seeking the ultimate <a href="http://www.matchvip.co.za/MatchVIP/our-guarantee.html">matchmaker</a> to ensure success for <a href="http://www.matchvip.co.za/">corporate dating</a>.

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