Dating over 50 can be a daunting experience, particularly internet dating, particularly if you don't have much experience of dating or the internet! The truth is, there are a lot of dating websites out there, some better than others, and there are a lot of single men and women over the age of 50 looking for friendship or relationships. Obviously, online dating isn't quite as straightforward as choosing your fruit and veg at the supermarket, but it does bear a similarity to internet shopping! Internet dating websites offer users the opportunity to find and contact people based on a huge number of factors - age, interests, location, number of children, size etc...the list goes on!
A contributor on an over 50s website and online lifestyle magazine, wrote of her experiences:
"I had one guy, very nice, a professional, we had a meal and he seemed ok, and I agreed to meet him for a second date. As we were discussing where and when this should happen he told me that on the next date he would like to dress up as a woman. I instantly politely said "Sorry no" he burst into tears and said something about me being cold and heartless, but I left him saying that I was sorry but no way could I agree to that."
Stories of people who didn't quite hit it off are commonplace, however, so are stories of successful matches and people who have found good friends and relationships. There are methods of "damage limitation" which should be taken into consideration before starting your search for love online, particularly if you are over 50:
Make sure you are honest:
Always ensure that you are honest about your own attributes and what you are looking for from a relationship. Describing yourself as you were 15 years ago is pointless, as is using a photo 20 years old. If your online relationship is to go further and you decide to meet in person, it will only complicate things and make you look insincere.
Let your personality shine through:
Don't just state that you are kind or have a good sense of humour, show it. If you are kind and considerate it might be worth mentioning any voluntary work or other things you do to help people, if you have a good sense of humour let your it shine through with witty description of yourself.
Do your best to interpret hidden meanings:
If someone says they are "adventurous", do they mean that they are an adrenaline junkie, if they say they are "extremely organised" could they be an unbearable neat freak? If their profile photo looks as though they are in their 30s but their profile age states that they are in their 60s, it is safe to say it is a very old picture! Do analyse the profiles of others that you might be interested in, however try to avoid being too cynical!
Always ensure you are safe:
Avoid giving away too much information about yourself before you know and trust someone on the internet. Follow these tips to ensure you stay safe on the internet - http://www.50andnifty.com/life/relationships/item/26-making-internet-friends.html
Don't expect too much:
Meeting someone in the flesh that you feel you have a connection with online can sometimes lead to disappointment. This is why it is important to manage your expectations, remain optimistic, however don't get carried away with excitement about finding the love of your life. If you keep your expectations in check there is more chance that you will be pleasantly surprised.
Making Internet friends is another way where you can gain trust of other people all around the world in the most successful way. If you want to know how to do it, you can get information on http://www.50andnifty.com/.
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