Have you heard the following statements before, "I'm so desperate for a girlfriend! I'm so desperate for a boyfriend?" I'm sure you have! What about you, are you desperate for a girlfriend/boyfriend?
If you look around you, you tend to see many males and females desperate to get into a relationship. Some of this desperation is a result of lack self esteem, lack of love, peer pressure, and lack of interest in life. Many individuals think they will never be able to attract someone they can love and be loved in return, so they feel hopeless in life.
I'm so desperate for a girlfriend/boyfriend
To deal with this kind of desperation, first we need to analyze the root cause of why so many girls are so desperate for a boyfriend and so many guys are desperate for a girlfriend.
1. Lack of self esteem
People, who have low self esteem, feel negative about their life, career, relationships, or any other area of life, so they become desperate for a romantic relationship so they can feel better about themselves and compensate for what they lack in one or more of the areas in life.
If you fall in this category, then you need to start developing your self esteem. Being in a relationship will not build your self esteem, however, overcoming your limiting beliefs about yourself, learning optimism, and learning new skills will.
Let me ask you something, let's say you get in a relationship now while you have low self esteem and you become happy in the moment, then suddenly, your partner breaks up with you and leaves you all alone. What will happen then? If you have low self esteem, then it will hit bottom low, but if you have high self esteem, you will move on in a short period and realize this was only an experience.
2. Peer pressure
Peer pressure is another root cause for why some girls become so desperate for a boyfriend and some guys desperate for a girlfriend.
For example, if a girl is single, but has a group of girlfriends who all have boyfriends, they might start pressuring the single girl into getting in a relationship. They might say something like "Why don't you have a boyfriend? Can't you get a guy? Are you a loser?" If the single girl has low self esteem, then such questions might have a huge negative effect on her and she might become so desperate to get a boyfriend.
If you have some friends who are pressuring you to get into a relationship then, you might want to consider spending less time with them and work on getting new friends who support you. True friends are the ones who support you, not pressure you into getting in a relationship when you are not ready for it.
3. Depending on someone for your happiness
Some people are so desperate to find someone to love, so they can feel happy. What they fail to realize is that happiness is an internal state, not external.
I explained in my book "How to win your lover's heart" that your boyfriend or girlfriend are not responsible for your happiness, you are. As long as you stay depending on your partner for your happiness, you will never become truly happy. Yes for sure their love can and will enhance your life, but true source of happiness is internal which means you are responsible for it.
Begin to love and show compassion to yourself instead of being so desperate to find a partner. When you begin to treat yourself in a compassionate and loving way, others will see that about you and then when someone shows up in your life, your relationship together will be much happier.
Now, that you know the main causes for someone who is desperate for a girlfriend or a boyfriend, you need to start taking some steps to stop being desperate. If your self esteem is low, then work on improving your self esteem before you get into a relationship. If you are looking for someone to make you happy, then start by making yourself happy first. Remember, all the answers that you seek are within you internally, not externally.
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