Saying I Love You - What to Do When It Isn't Said in Return

You did it. Maybe you meant to or perhaps you just got caught up in the moment. Regardless of what spurred it on, you've now told your man you love him and all you got in return was a "thank you" or a nervous smile. It's a dreadful feeling, isn't it? You've bared your heart and soul to this man and he couldn't muster up the courage to respond in kind. Now you feel awkward whenever you see him and you wonder what he really feels for you. What's a girl in your situation to do? As much as you want to run and bury your face in the sand, there's a better way to deal with this. Telling a man you love him too soon isn't the end of the world, although it certainly can feel like it is.

Embarrassment is the emotion you're going to feel you're drowning in if you've said you love him and he didn't say the same back. It's natural to feel that you wish you could take the words back and it's hard not to question whether the relationship was actually as close and connected as you believed it to be. As much as you feel like second guessing what you're feeling, don't. Men and women actually fall in love at different paces. Even though you may be head over heels for him right now, he may still be on the edge of falling in love. That's not to say that he won't eventually. It's just that his emotional maturity may not allow him to feel as much as soon as you do.

You can't rerun the encounter and erase the words. They are out there now and you have to deal with the consequences of that. Many women in your situation are inclined to discuss what happened with the man in question. That seems reasonable and emotionally responsible, but there's a catch. By bringing it up with him you're opening yourself up to the possibility that he again won't say he loves you too. Even though that may not be the motivation behind you wanting to discuss what happened, there will be an unspoken expectation that he'll just blurt out the words and the issue will become a mute point.

A much better and emotionally safer approach for you is to pull the spotlight away from what you said and instead focus on moving the relationship forward without any expectations. That means you need to shift your state of mind a bit and stop focusing on the fact that you're crazy about this man and he has yet to share those same feelings with you. Take the time to rebuild your blossoming connection without any talk of love or devotion. Arrange some fun outings for the two of you and discuss safe and neutral things like work or the weather.

Once you reinvent the relationship and pull the focus away from your ill timed confession of love, he'll relax and open up more. Then, once he does share that he loves you too, you'll know it's coming from a pure place inside of his heart and not from feeling pressured by you.

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