Wouldn't it be so much easier if every relationship in our past had ended on a good note? Unfortunately that is not always the case. Often relationships end and in the bargain we hurt our exes. But an even more unfortunate part is when these past relationships tend to effect and influence our present relationships. Your boyfriend's ex-girlfriend is someone whom may have the power to create insecurity in your relationship. Here are few ways how you should react when you meet your boyfriend ex.
Firstly treat her like just somebody else. You don't have to behave with her in a different manner because she is your boyfriend's ex. Just like how you have a past, so does she. Just because she is your boyfriend's ex, it doesn't make her a bitch. So treat her with respect. This doesn't mean that you have to over do it. Don't go out of your way to be sweet to her, because that will only make her suspicious. No matter how hard it is for you, act normal. Try to hide any kind of awkwardness. If your boyfriend is with you, while she is around. Avoid getting too mushy with him, or she may think that you doing that only to make her jealous. When he introduces you to her, don't put on that bitchy face or try to pass on your catty message to her via telepathy. You trying to do that, will only prove that you are insecure about her. Instead smile confidently and shake hands with her just like you would if he introduced a friend to you. If the situation permits and you are forced to talk to her, keep the conversation very general. Avoid talking about personal issues, especially the topic about your boyfriend. There are so many things that two girls can talk about, for example the weather, food, shopping, etc. Talk to her the way you would talk to any other girlfriend. Two girls can surely have fun, even if she is your boyfriend's ex-girlfriend, provided you treat her like just another girl. If you are not enjoying, talk for a little time, make a good excuse and go somewhere else. If you are enjoying her company nothing is wrong to continue talking to her. At the end finish the conversation and say a kind goodbye to her.
Your boyfriend's ex can be a very important factor to cause insecurities and various problems in your current relationship. Hence behave in the right manner and you will have the power to shrug off so many possible problems, far away.
The author writes quizzes for girls on love and dating. He also writes relationship advice for those who are seeking guidance in love. He is also a contributing blogger on relationships in mag for women.
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