What Men Want No 66: A Control Freak

What men want is a woman who is a control freak... huh? OK, well maybe not a control freak, but believe it or not, men do like to be controlled. In fact, one of the main reasons that men get into a relationship is to be controlled, ie. they were looking for the "right" lady to control them. That's not to say that us men go around in our daily lives, appraising women and actively thinking, "hmm, would she make a good master?" Whether we men like it or not, we instinctively go for women who like controlling us. You're man is just waiting for you to control him. If you don't do it, another woman will. I'll explain why we men want to be controlled (from a husband's perspective) and how you can start doing it today.

1. We look for approval

As much as us guys like to think we're independent, the ones who choose to get married ultimately have a different mindset from the single guys. Men who get married want to be controlled. By controlled, I don't mean domineering. I mean given praise. Even that sounds like we're not capable of intelligent thought. Let me put it this way; you women get married to us for the same thing, to an extent. You choose one particular man over the other 3 billion men around the world. Why? Because his opinion of you means more to you than every other man out there. His opinion validates your presence and makes you feel special. It's exactly the same with us.

2. Passive Control

Basically, you guys aren't controlling us actively, we look for that acceptance and love from you (which is why people get married in the first place). Divorces occur when people don't feel validated or acknowledged by their spouses anymore.

We need the control to be happy. As much as we'd like to think that we control our own feelings towards ourselves, if you get married, you are doing so for validation from a 3rd party, to some extent or another.

3. How to Ethically Control Your Man

This is why the concept of brownie points even exists. In our heads, whether we acknowledge it or not, we always strive for acceptance from you, our wife. Acknowledge us, but more importantly, chastise us. Show us that you're in control and we'll respect you.

This is a new concept for a lot of women, so hopefully you can see how important it is to control your man, for the sake of your marriage. Please ladies, take control of us!

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