What Men Want In a Woman: Drop It

What men want in a woman is for them to let sleeping dogs lie. I don't know about you, but my wife loves occasionally pulling out the odd embarrassing story about me and letting all my mates know about it. She knows I hate it, but she does it anyway. That's OK. What's not OK is when the wife uses that negative aspect of her man as a weapon against him in an argument, simply for the intention to main and hurt. Not cool. There are better ways to make a point in an argument against your man where you don't have to go for the jugular. Here's three ways to argue with respect.

1. Use logic

In general (and that's a very big, "in general), women argue with emotion while men argue with logic. Now, I'm going to get a lot of, "Oh Jack, you're so sexist, that's not true!" I know it's not true, but bear with me here. If you use emotion to argue, you're never going to get anywhere, regardless of what gender you are.

Use logic to argue your argument. Although most arguments tend to be emotional, if both of you try to keep it logical and rational, you actually work things out.

2. Ask Him What He Wants

Pretty simple, but most people simply end up arguing for the sake of arguing. It's pretty stupid, but people do end up doing that a lot. As someone who studied marketing, I'd like to apply an analogy to this situation.

If you want to solve your market's (your husband's) problem, simply ask him what he wants and give it to him. No point wasting oxygen getting nowhere. Ask him, give it to him, problem solved. He'll get used to doing the same for you.

3. Verbal Judo

This is an effective technique that has been around for quite a few decades now. It basically revolves around the concept of the Japanese martial art, Judo. In Judo, you don't throw punches. You absorb the direction your opponent's punch is going in so no one gets hurt.

In a verbal argument, the equivalent of doing this is asking something like, "I see you're upset about [this]. How would you suggest we fix this problem?" No accusations, no anger. Just cool, calm collectedness.

What men want in a woman is someone who knows how to argue effectively. It's impossible not to argue. If you argue without emotion, you're already half way there. Try these three ways and your man will notice the difference and will appreciate you more afterwards.

About the Author

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