What Men Want No 74: A Try-Hard

What men want in a woman is a try-hard. No, not someone who tries too hard to get your attention, but a woman who tries hard at something that they feel passionate about, which matters to them. This is something that they would happily do for the rest of their lives, if they could. It's uninspiring being married to a woman who is happy to settle for less. Of course, it's not so much of a good thing if the woman expects too much from her men either, but let's focus on women who don't have much to live for and why that's such a turn off for their man.

1. Plus 50 Years

Right now, can you imagine what it would be like if you were 50 years older? Assume that you and your husband are still both alive and well. Realistically, where could you see yourselves?

Will you have been happy with your lives? Has there been anything you wanted to do that you never achieved? Did you yourself wish that your man was more ambitious or more of a go getter? Maybe your lives could have been more exciting if one of you had a passion that kept a spark in your marriage.

2. 2nd Place

The man has to be in second place if he is to be a good husband. Men who are always placed as first priority typically get lazy and don't push themselves any harder than they already do. They also usually are mommy's boys.

If a woman tries hard at something, particularly at something that the man is currently good at, that will get the attention of the man. He will either have to try harder, or be a good husband and support his wife at whatever she's doing. If he remains lazy, no good will come out of that.

3. More For You

If you try hard at something, what naturally happens? You spend more time doing it. What's the natural result of that? You have less time to do other stuff. What happens as a result of that? Your time overall becomes more valuable in the eyes of others.

The workload around the house has to be shared if your husband genuinely respects you and wants you hard work to pay off for you. He might start doing more work for once. Not only that, he'll be happy to do it, knowing that he's helping you out by giving you less to do!

What men want is a woman who tries hard. If she tries hard, she will get more out of life. Her man, respecting that she has less time for him, will also try harder to to get her attention. Finally, a woman who tries hard actually does less important stuff, doing more of what she loves! The marriage is strengthened and you get to follow your interest, it's a win-win situation!

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