5 biggest matchmaker mistakes

In today's era of busy lifestyles and packed schedules, matchmaker services offer the most effective way for singles to meet like-minded people who share their interests, passions and views. A large number of singles have managed to find love and lasting relationships through their dating service, realising the huge potential and using these services effectively to find dates with people who are a good match. For others however, a few deadly mistakes are made that can undermine the entire success of your matchmaker attempt.

Here are a few things to look out for when you join a matchmaker service:

1. Creating a profile that is untrue or over the top – your profile is quite possibly the most important thing to consider when signing up through a dating service. After all, this is the first thing that potential partners look at before deciding whether to get in touch or move on to the next one. Surprisingly, this is something that many singles fail to consider. False profiles, profiles that are totally over the top, or profiles that lack any real information are all a quick way to get a lack of interest. On the other hand, a profile that is worded well, without typos or ‘text speak', with a clear idea of who you are and what your interests are is the most effective way to catch the eye of someone browsing profiles – even if you have not yet added a photograph.

2. Old photographs or inappropriate photographs – many singles (especially women) feel that they need to portray a sexy, confident image to potential suitors. To achieve this image, they upload raunchy pictures of themselves wearing very little, showing too much cleavage and too much makeup. Men are equally bad when it comes to photographs – all too often choosing pictures of themselves ten years ago, or worse, themselves on their motorbike or in their flashy car, showing plenty of muscle in a cheesy wife beater top. Remember – your photograph has to do your justice, as people you meet will expect you to look like you do on your photos. Using old pictures or even fake pictures is sure to result in a disastrous first date when your interest sees that you have lied about your picture.

3. Talking about exes, drama, prison time or other issues – once you have gotten to know someone, it is fine to bring up the touchy subjects. But adding information about your dark secrets on your profile, or bringing it up before you have even met your interest is the quickest way to scare them away before they have even gotten to know you. Matchmaker services are all about fun and getting to know people, and just like you wouldn't tell a stranger at a cocktail party about the time you and your ex robbed a store, you shouldn't be telling people you have just met online about these things.

4. Assuming too much, too quickly – yet another classic mistake that people make when meeting people online is making the assumption that a date is the start to a relationship. Reading too much into every comment or email that is sent can cause you to have high expectations of the person you are meeting, when in reality you may have completely misread their signals. Take time to get to know your love interest before leaping to any conclusions about where the relationship is headed.

5. Being impatient and not giving it a chance – the single biggest mistake that singles make when using matchmaker services however is not giving it a real chance. Getting impatient when you haven't met Mr or Mrs Right after a few dates will never work, and if you cancel your membership before giving it a proper go, you may miss out on an amazing chance to meet your special someone. Have patience and give it a few weeks or even a few months to see if matchmaker services are for you.

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Bianca Jones offers advice for singles seeking the ultimate <a href="http://www.matchvip.co.za/MatchVIP/our-guarantee.html">matchmaker</a> to ensure success for <a href="http://www.matchvip.co.za/">corporate dating</a>.