Matchmaker tips – how to get his interest

There is no doubt about it – trying to get the attention from a love interest is tricky, whether you have met them on your matchmaker site or seen them around your local bar. While men have traditionally been the ones to make the first move, this can make it harder for women to attract the attention of guys that they are actually interested in. Being shy to flirt, or lacking the self-confidence to position yourself as a woman who men find interesting is one of the biggest challenges faced by women in the dating game.

To help you improve your chances of having that cute boy with the twinkling blue eyes notice you, here are some tips from our resident matchmaker.

• Smile – this doesn't just mean smiling at guys that catch your interest, but also smiling and being happy. Men are attracted to women who look like they are having fun. These women seem more approachable and friendly, and they look like they will be fun to chat to. Men are put off by women who seem grumpy, unfriendly or disinterested. Even if you might not be feeling any of those things, a lack of a smile can make the wrong impression.

 

• Say hello – often, it really is as simple as just saying hello to a guy who you think might be interesting. By making a subtle move that shows that you are confident and friendly, you will instantly get his attention. If he is interested and available, he will say hello back and feel confident enough to continue talking. At the very least, you will boost your confidence to say hello to the next guy if you do not get the response that you want. This works on matchmaker sites too!

 

• Body language – remember that you can say a lot without every opening your mouth to talk. Showing your neck subtly, flicking your hair and crossing your legs are all ways to indicate openness and allure to potential suitors. If you catch the eye of someone who looks interesting, try the two second glance, look away and look back again a few seconds later. Bat your eyelashes, and remember to smile.

 

• Be bold – many men find it attractive when a woman is confident enough to try a bolder move. You don't have to come up with corny pickup lines, but there are ways to break the ice and have fun. If you and your girlfriends are sitting near a group of cute guys, try the following matchmaker expert trick: lean over and tell the one you fancy that you and your friends were trying to guess the occupations of him and his group of friends. Even if you come up with outrageous answers, it will get the conversation going and show that you are confident enough to make conversation.

 

• Have fun – the biggest way to attract interest is to focus on having fun with your friends. Rather than spending your time watching every potential interest pass, get involved. Tell jokes, dance like no one is watching and sing along to the music if you want to. Women who are clearly having a good time, and seem to have their own, busy social lives are a lot more appealing to men than those who only ever seem interested in men. This also applies on your matchmaker site – if you come across as a busy person who enjoys life and has plenty of interests, you will be a lot more attractive to guys.

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