Tips for texting your matchmaker interest

There are few things more frustrating than waiting to hear from a matchmaker interest, especially if you have been on a great date and everything seemed to be going so well. While men have always been the ones who make the call, in today's age women are also able to make contact without feeling too forward. The trick is how you go about making contact with your matchmaker interest.

Here are a few important things to keep in mind before sending that text:

• Read the signs – you may have thought your date went well, but were you picking up his signals correctly? He may have told you he would call, but if he did not show interest in your life, didn't make eye contact on your date, seemed distracted, flirted with other women and just didn't respond all that well to your jokes, then he may just have been trying to let you down gently. Many women ignore these signals in their quest to find a matchmaker romance, but these signals indicate his feelings far more than a perfunctory kiss on the cheek or vague promises to call you soon.

 

• Giving him too much too soon – if you jumped into bed on your first date, and you haven't heard from him in a day or two, then you may have sabotaged your chances without even realising it. Calling or texting him may remind him that he hasn't gotten in touch, but it may also not rouse his interest much. After all, he has gotten what he wanted and may already be on the lookout for a new ‘catch'.

 

• Watch your tone – if you do decide to text him, be very careful to keep your tone friendly and light. Asking him point blank why he hasn't gotten in touch will send him running for the hills, as will sounding angry, sad or desperate. You don't want him to think that you've been waiting around for his call, even if you have been. Instead, you want him to see you as that fun, charming girl he met through his matchmaker service, who he wants to see again.

 

• Avoid random text chats – to make him see you as someone he wants to spend time with, avoid boring texts such as ‘how are you doing?' Instead, ask him something specific – bring up a show that you both discussed on your date, or tell him something interesting that will prompt a genuine conversation rather than a simple answer. If you can, make it easy for him to ask you out.

 

• If you ask him out – this is a tricky one, but needn't be stressful. The best approach is a casual one. Text him when you're about to go out, and tell him that you and some friends are on your way to a party, asking him to come with his friends. This takes the pressure off, and doesn't make him feel on the spot. If he says no and doesn't ask for a raincheck, you will need to accept that and move on to your next possible matchmaker interest.

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Bianca Jones offers advice for singles seeking the ultimate <a href="http://www.matchvip.co.za/MatchVIP/our-guarantee.html">matchmaker</a> to ensure success for <a href="http://www.matchvip.co.za/">corporate dating</a>.